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Like an O-Henry Story, the Gift

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While the rest of you are  wrapping kindles and flat screens, I have accepted that the only gifts to come my way this holiday season may befrom secret santa parties, and give very little personal satisfaction. So it was in the spirit of self-giving that I decided to present myself this week.What joy it was when my toilet refused to flush properly this Thursday. A crap situation which gave me a real reason to be generous. My over-priced tenement has yet to offer the amenities of a pro-active super, so I am usually left with the awful task of plunging and snaking. These plumbing tools of the trade are rather difficult to use and require dexterity and strength or a boyfriend…three items I seem to be living without.

 

Since I only have one bathroom, I was forced to visit the upscale hardware store and told them of  my dilemma. Of course, I could have settled on one of  the standard rubber bell plungers, but they always turn inside out and I’m too weak to master them. The clerk showed me a new gadget that “even his grandmother can use.” It’s a sea blue plastic that sits on the toilet rim and apparently all that is needed is to put the lid down. The air pressure does the rest. It looked actually complicated but it was the twenty-two dollar price tag ….I asked for something cheaper and there it stood. My new best friend.

 

No lovers need apply. This black multi-layered rubber thing sang out to me. I knew it would be easy to use…it looked like an accordian on a stick and at $12 I lept.

Once home, I put my little friendt over the toilet bowl and pushed.  And pushed. And then, boom, the water went down and I was ready for a weekend without BTS (blocked toilet syndrome). What a Chanukah revelation. It’s the simple things after all.

 

 

 

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December 19, 2011 at 5:10 am

Cook County film review

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Cook County has the feel of  really being there and at the same time wishing you could get the next bus to anywhere else, In this beat town in East Texas, a dysfunctional family tries to make sense of itself in a world that offers little hope or understanding. They live with consistent lack of jobs, crap food and a desperate vision for a future; remnants of the American dream epidemic that still holds them in its thorny claw.    Cook County could be any one of the dying small towns across America; where poverty and lack of opportunity more often than not lead to drug and alcohol as a respite from ennui and rage. In this case, it’s crystal meth, the one crystal not approved of by the New Age. Meth makes them crazy and mean and producing it becomes a way of supporting their slight life style. That they don’t all commit group suicide is an indication of just how delusional this type of living becomes.

A solid script by writer director David Pommes, a first film for a lawyer –by- day, and terrific performances by Xander Berkeley (24) and Anson Mount(Hell on Wheels),who also co-produced it, Polly Cole, lend much weight to this tough film. It’s hard to hate these people as the hero Berkeley  truly tries to make a shift; but they are a by-product of something gone wrong for too long. When Mount’s daughter and nephew (Ryan Donowho, Broken Flowers) spend a day with overweight relatives in a safe and Christian Texas suburb, the extremes of our culture really hit home. There is no in-between in the lives of these people. Feast or famine. At home, Berkely tells his son Donowho to put newly purchased potato chips in a bowl. The son looks at him as if he’s out of his mind. They haven’t eaten out of a bowl in years

Mount, as the worst of the addicts, has to make a choice at one point… to feed his addiction or sacrifice the only bit of the feminine left in him. It is a Lear moment, a blind man unable to control base instincts of ego and need. It is a brave and scary piece of writing and acting.

This film is finally being released after receiving numerous festival awards and deserves attention. It’s not pretty like Days of Heaven, but is pretty accurate in portraying forgotten America.

The film opens in NYC this Friday.

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December 15, 2011 at 4:33 pm

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The Fourth Way begins

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The Fourth Way, a new art/action collective committed its first action this past Saturday. Occupy Windows took over the  window of the charming Hourglass Tavern on 46th Street and 9th..using the theme that time is running out, Lady Nancledra, witch and seer, held placards that were noted and studied by the passer-bys who have yet to make it down to Occupy Wall Street. With the help of the Fourth Way graphic and animation department, this action plans on continuing in other venues all over the city. Please let them know if you have a window that needs to be occupied.

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October 24, 2011 at 10:48 pm

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The Rum Diary

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by nancy koan

The Rum Diary
A few years back I stood on the rim of Hunter S. Thompson’s memorial service in Woody Creek. I almost made it in on my Abbie Hoffman credentials, but alas, was deported to the side of the road with what I call real journalists.  Yammering on, I made the social faux pas of suggesting that if Mr. Thompson were alive, he might be put off by seeing shadows of his former self forced to stand outside the holy circle of the glam pack. I got quoted and my pre-booked interview with his widow was promptly cancelled.

That same integrity that I granted Mr. T at his memorial comes thru his character as played again  (Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas) by Johnny Depp. It’s not an impersonation of looks or gait, but Mr. Depp’s understanding of this writer’s soul and his burgeoning outrage at greedy human behavior.  I love films where characters, esp. artists or writers find their moral compass, and that happens for Hunter in Puerto Rico, where he innocently (was he ever innocent?) takes a job as a reporter. As written and directed for the screen by Bruce Robinson (The Killing Fields) based on Hunter’s book The Rum Diary, there is much that feels authentically remembered. Nixon,  Cuba and the beginning of the great American tourist occupation are more than the backdrop. It’s a new political era. Where my parents brought back dance records and pictures of themselves smiling with the natives, this film is a reminder of what went on underneath the rum cocktails.  Robinson knows how to pair up drinking buddies (Withnail and I) and a scene where Depp drives down a hill of stairs in a tin can of a car with cohort Michael Rispoli is truly funny. I wanted more of these antics, but of course, the bad guys, are on board, and in black and white. Just once, it might be nice to have them more likeable so that when the lead has to make moral choices, it’s harder …not because of the girl or money…but because the crook might actually be nice, as people often say the Republicans are.

It’s basically an all boy film, especially with the cock fights (PETA, please read the disclaimer) and Giovanni Ribisi’s derelict could use a little less screen time. The one IT girl, Amber Heard, seems out of time for the era. She’s just too Television now; her assertiveness didn’t stick nor does her looks… women were more zoftig then and I never bought her death wish- joy ride as a key to her greater  emotional depths.

The film is shot beautifully (Dariusz Wolski) and the scenes that focus on locale, like the café where the gringos aren’t wanted, are riveting.

In a time when so many journalists have been hoodwinked, gagged or just too pooped, it is great to be reminded that Hunter S. Thompson found his voice and wrote. As for the rum, just don’t drive.

The Rum Diary opens this week in NYC

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October 24, 2011 at 10:34 pm

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Something’s happenin’ here..

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First it was Times Square… as you can see by the photos, lots of theatrical energy. Occupy Times Square.  The demonstrators wore white and perfomred on stilts, played drums and spread the word. I zipped out early cause i heard the next stop was back to Washington Square Park. The air was chilly but the crowd was hot. When the vote was taken for staying the nite, there didn’t seem to be enough hands raised to push it, so we drifted to the outer rims where stunning horses waited, topped by stern looking police. Looking in on the scene was straight out of the movie Hair.. no hippies, but the same virile cops on even more virile   ponies.  What might happen? If the few remaining in the park refuse to move, they will be moved. A frantic woman told me that a horse fell earlier in Times Square and that tomorrow the Peta people would be there. Lots of agendas… someone yelled to the men in blue that their pensions were on the line as well… of course,  they’re probably on the right side, if they thought of it, but as they say : they’re doing their job”, which doesnt include hitting demonstrators, no matter what.

This is strong action. But funny how only 3 blx away in the East Village, skyscaper heeled women and their very important dates are thinking  only about the next long drink… might as well be from a different planet from the Occupy Washington Square Park folk.  Going to sleep and hoping no one was hurt.

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October 16, 2011 at 5:25 am

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Dim Sum not so Dim

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Went to tasting at the Golden Unicorn to meet Ching-He Huang and see her new EAsy Chinese Everyday cookbook.

Delicious food that you eat at breathtaking speed. What I like particularly is taht you fill up fast but by the time you’re home, you are too tired from going to Chinatown to consider getting more food. Easy on the budget, easy on the belly. Ms. Huang’s folding of the dumplings was a sculpture’s dream…easy pleating of the dough creating wonderful pocketbooks for sumptuous insides.  And all this as Andy Lee, filmmaker, was just landing in Shanghai.

Ching He Huang and Dimsum Chef

Ching- He Huang and Dimsum Chef

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October 12, 2011 at 10:40 pm

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Films about commitment

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by Nancy Koan

VITO is a tender and powerful look
into one of the most important voices in the birth of contemporary gay culture
and AIDS activism, Vito Russo. The film covers his early days of the New York
gay scene, with juicy landmark moments like Stonewall and Bette Midler
performing  at the Baths. Through his
great concern for community, we witness Vito’s becoming one of the most
important civil rights activists in the country As a film lover, his book The
Celluloid  Closet
 deals with the many unspoken portrayals of
gays in early films before the Code so naturally the film is loaded with great
Hollywood clips. It’s an archivist’s dream. As a template for political
organization and urgency, Occupy Wall Street will find much in this film to be
inspired by.

Director Jeffrey Schwartz of
Automat Pictures encourages Vito’s own family to speak so openly from their
hearts that by the end of the film, it is difficult to feel that you’re not
part of the Russo family.  Terrific
soundtrack from Miriam Cutler.

The film shows at New York Film Festival, Oct. 14 at
6 and 9pm and will be aired on HBO in 2012.

From a completely different POV, is GOD’s LAND, written and directed by Preston
Miller (Jones), tells the story of a group
of Taiwanese zealots who descend upon Garland, Texas with the promise of being raptured
up by a spaceship. Based on a true story, these white jump-suited strangers
wearing cowboy hats and boots, are endearing as they try to fit in and follow
their faith. The local media worries that they could pull off another Wako
resulting in decreased property sales, but these people don’t even own a gun—and
this is Texas. The members seem to actually care about each other and as the actress
Xiu Hou, playing the wife of the most recent inductee says to her much loved
husband: “I don’t have a vision, I’ll take yours.”

It’s
slow-moving (165 minutes) but the pace is important to understanding the
characters’ interiors and Mr. Miller has a great time shooting the strange urban
landscape, though much of it was apparently shot in Hicksville for a pittance.

The
film opens at the Quad on October 28.

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October 12, 2011 at 10:28 pm

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Wild Winds of August NYC County

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So much flying in the air now.. rain, wind, rumors..almost hard to see the angels. Carole King’s stock went up six points on Tuesday.. I have her Earth Moves Song on my mobile…we were lucky as I thought it was terrorism. What can you expect when hundreds of people are yammering into their cell phones on lower broadway? I was relieved it was just pissed off Mother Nature doing her thing. I got a hug from the girl at the eco store..we both needed the grounding. Before anyone knew the the truth, I heard a woman on the subway repeat “Iaint waitin’ round this time, if they want me, they can find me at home. I just took the first train and I’m gone”
Yea ..no one wants to relive the 9/11 mess…hopefully, they won’t turn it into a pageant of martyrdom and martydee. For my part, I think it’ll be Rocky Mountain High for me..for the big event..aren’t they gonna name a peak after John Denver? Or are they sculpting his face into the rock. Either way, my nervous system is completely gone. Sleep is a thing of the past. I still would like it everyone were just nice to each other…but then would mean waking up to another dream. You have to go to sleep first …
Interesting youtube

It’s not over yet, wall street.

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August 25, 2011 at 9:47 pm

Amy Winehouse, another Shelf Life victim

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Poor terrific singer Amy. Is it a drug tolerant UK that could be blamed? I’m all for taking what you want into your body, it’s yours, but me thinks that the UK has idealized rapacious drug taking by its talented to the point of it being perhaps too cool. Pete Wolf, an old acquaintance, and a very sweet man, deep inside, has been on and off drugs for a long time, and now sadly is spending prison time for his influence on a Goldsmith gal who died while doing crack under his watch.

What are the answers to the artist/consciousness change/dilemma? Perhaps Andrew Tatarsky, a NY shrink who specializes in Harm Reduction Therapy has some answers…this form of therapy doesn’t require the patient to totally forgo their favorite drug, but to take it slowly and perhaps with the hope that with good talking therapy, be able to withdraw completely. it’s different from AA and may suit certain personalities better.

Last Fall, David Ogrin and I wrote a short musical that was performed at Theatre for the New City, Shelf Life — A Lady Gaga Morality Tale. The premise is that rock stars may need to die by their 27th birthday to remain as famous as they are at their height. It was done as a humorous piece about the idea of fame, but every good astrologer knows that 28/29 is the age of the Saturn Return, when the planet saturn does its first life revollution. If you can make it to that point, you’re in good shape for another 28 years,,,poor Amy.. but she will always be remembered as she was at 27. Who knows what’s the best way to live…

Lady Gaga video:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=crn_epEdNuo

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July 24, 2011 at 4:08 pm

please, america, don’t get more trashy

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We are living in a most amazing time… secrets are being revealed,as the sky is opening to pour light on the darkest corners.. News of the World hacking…ugly, yes…different from the Patriot Act which allowed phone tapping, sure…but where is the line drawn?  To catch a thief, a potential moral creep…who decides? But to do it just for sport and to sell issues…yech, all our hands are dirty. Didn’t people love reading that adorable Hugh Grant was caught with his pants down in a transexual tryst..oh what fun. But when it happens to you or Hugh in this case… I don’t even know if it was News Of The World..but enough is enough. Art holds up a mirror t the world…we are all lovely, scummpy, sometimes cruel, often charming, mess of psyche… why do we have to have our tales trotted out like damaged produce. The only thing that can mend our ragged hems is to recognize ourselves in every stupid and cruel moment that occurs. And then be vigilent to make the corrections.  And do the job. The people who never went into Jaycee Dugard’s back yard were probably lazy, underpaid or maybe overwhelmed with their own problems…but sixty times? That’s a lot of missed opportunities.

And now a Zappo campaign is ready to sell designer clothes with naked models running around on motorcycles… doesn’t  anyone see the connect… provocation leading to endangering the young. And for what end? Not to better understand the beauty of the body, the conflicts in desire, etc.  no..to make money.. just to make money.

I was sent a lovely video today of a bunch of people freeing a whale from plastic netting.  They felt great after…the whale responded in kind by giving them a personal water ballet..made me want to slip the netting off my own inhibitions …http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EBYPlcSD490

Michele Bachmann.. I like the pretzels, and you know the shape  was made by monks…something to do with prayer.. so if you have anything to do with pretzels, keep them coming, but please, running a clinic to dissuade homosexuality throug prayer… come on. You should have just served beer and chips. I’m not making any sense, but either is the world today.

 

 

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July 12, 2011 at 1:39 am